What I learned from my love affair with Reddit.

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“Allow yourself the uncomfortable luxury of changing your mind. Cultivate that capacity for “negative capability.” We live in a culture where one of the greatest social disgraces is not having an opinion, so we often form our “opinions” based on superficial impressions or the borrowed ideas of others, without investing the time and thought that cultivating true conviction necessitates. We then go around asserting these donned opinions and clinging to them as anchors to our own reality. It’s enormously disorienting to simply say, “I don’t know.” …

Don’t assume they do.


We’ve all heard the saying that “LOVE cures all,” and though it is the driving motivator for a real bond in all human relationships, our need to love can quickly get messy by our OWN need to BE loved back.

Never is this more true than with the parent and child relationship. Our love is so strong for our children that we are willing to sacrifice anything for them. So why do we as parents act in ways that look nothing like love? …

Why generalists triumph in a specialized world

Is GRIT the key to success?

If you were to ask me just a few years ago, ” what’s the key to success?” I would not even hesitate to say GRIT! Even before reading Angela Duckworth’s phenomenal book, I would say if ever I succeeded at anything it was because I could outwork anyone. I knew if I really wanted it I wouldn’t give up and I wouldn’t stop until I did it.

For anyone that’s been successful, I’m sure they’d say the same thing. Put in an ass-load of time and you’re bound to be better at most things. Malcolm Gladwell popularized the 10,000-hour rule…

Why we should be worried about its threat of extinction.

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My childhood memories are full of all the things I did when I was bored. Boredom, made a fort with my neighborhood besties in a dilapidated tree out in a field at the end of our cul-de-sac. It also led me to look up “Are Scorpions Poisonous” in the Encyclopedia (Remember those Britannica sets, I’m really dating myself now). That same tree was chock full of them. I worried all night whether or not I just got my best friend killed by my fort idea.

Boredom also built a 10-foot skateboard that was the talk of the neighborhood. Supplies found…

How your family can live with purpose and intention.

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Having a Life Purpose

Having a life purpose is like a lighthouse. Whenever we get lost in the fog, we can look to the lighthouse for guidance. When we get off the path, a life-purpose can center us and bring us back on the journey we have decided that we want to take. Many people walk through life allowing circumstances to blow them around like a ship buffeted by the wind on a rough sea. Having a life-purpose allows us to pursue an intentional direction. It brings us back when we get off course. It keeps us grounded when life bounces us through the…

Malcolm Gladwell “enough-shamed” Atticus Finch and I was appalled.

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Yes, I know Atticus Finch isn’t a real person. But great books DO become real to us, as they should if they’re done well. Reading entertains us at the least and inspires us to do better and make change at it’s best. To Kill a Mockingbird is world renowned for being the latter. In fact, Atticus Finch, a crucial character, was awarded by the American Film Institute, the greatest movie hero of all time.

Malcolm Gladwell is best known for his unique perspective on popular culture by explaining the unexpected implications…

Even when we have new and better information?

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We have a very special relationship with our identities. We’ve worked on them for years. It’s hard for my husband to say that another team is better than the Lakers because he identifies as a Lakers fan through and through. If he didn’t have his wife putting up a stink he would have decorated our house with Lakers posters to further prove his love and allegiance.

Whether you’re a sport’s fan, a fitness junkie, a foodie, a yogi, a band groupie, or a pet lover we can all start to morph into our preconceived thoughts that accompany our identities.


How to own your thoughts to own your life.

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One of the greatest lessons I’ve learned as an adult is that I am the sole person responsible for my thoughts AND feelings. No one person can tell us how to think or what to think and more importantly what to FEEL about those thoughts. Viktor Frankl changed modern psychology by teaching us what he learned from his harrowing experience in a Nazi concentration camp during World War II. His survival technique not only kept him alive but has influenced modern cognitive therapy and everyone that has learned from his work. …

My journey to peace while watching my mother die.

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In 2009 my husband and I were visiting family for Christmas. That year, one of the families had decided to only gift each other hand made presents. Brock and I loved this idea and planned to do the same the following year. Because I’m not great with tools, like my family members, I decided to do something a little different. I had been saving a special unused leather notebook. I planned to write Brock a note of gratitude every day until the following Christmas. Some days I would write a couple of sentences. Some days I would write pages. …

It’s just another excuse for not taking action.

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Like most things it depends on how you define it. So for starters, I 100% say YES and I 100% say NO.

NO if your definition of Karma is: “it was meant to be” or “whatever happens happens” or the worst one, “let God and let be”.

YES if you definition of Karma is: every action has gravity, a result.

If I jump off a cliff, I will die. If I’m mean to people, I won’t have many friends. It’s not cosmic. It’s not magical. It’s simply cause and effect.

Knowing this, should make you feel empowered because it gives…

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